Decisions about my currently realtionship

Hii, what do you guys think about a couple having kids when one of them might have a strong depression and anxiety and how do you think that would have an envolvement on the childs mentality ?

25-04-2018, 08:58 PM

Marksilva12 Wrote: Hii, what do you guys think about a couple having kids when one of them might have a strong depression and anxiety and how do you think that would have an envolvement on the childs mentality ?

It is not the child's mentality you have to worry about here, it is the one you love, I have 4 children and was really difficult to cope at first, my wife had depression when we had our first, this was further fueld by postnatal depression and got quite severe, let your loved one sort themselves out and deal with the current situation before even starting to think about children.

The problem is that she isnt getting better and she really wants kids rn and i left to not knowing what to do and with the therapy that she is doing i dont think it will help her. The wrost is that our realtionship is a LDR

25-04-2018, 09:10 PM

Marksilva12 Wrote: The problem is that she isnt getting better and she really wants kids rn and i left to not knowing what to do and with the therapy that she is doing i dont think it will help her. The wrost is that our realtionship is a LDR

trust me throwing a child in the mix will make things worse at this point in time and more than likely destroy your relationship completely. Patience, therapy does not work overnight.

I know it doesnt go like a miracle but the wrost is that i dont think my love for her is that high and that i can stand being with her and later maybe having a child and live getting harder that is almost like an explosing of stress inside my head. How did you cop with your own life if i may ask ? :s

25-04-2018, 09:16 PM

Marksilva12 Wrote: I know it doesnt go like a miracle but the wrost is that i dont think my love for her is that high and that i can stand being with her and later maybe having a child and live getting harder that is almost like an explosing of stress inside my head. How did you cop with your own life if i may ask ? :s

If your love is not that strong then deffo do not have a baby, I personally use meditation and breathing techniques along with a healthy diet and excersise, but many people choose not to live that lifestyle as "it is to difficult"

You are right and maybe i should just break up .That way of living is enought to make you go trought in live and be sucessfull ?

25-04-2018, 09:16 PM

Marksilva12 Wrote: I know it doesnt go like a miracle but the wrost is that i dont think my love for her is that high and that i can stand being with her and later maybe having a child and live getting harder that is almost like an explosing of stress inside my head. How did you cop with your own life if i may ask ? :s

I think you should look out for yourself. If your relationship is mostly causing stress then it may be time to break up. But if you want to work things out in the relationship then I think you should wait until you're living together before considering a kid.

25-04-2018, 09:34 PM

Marksilva12 Wrote: You are right and maybe i should just break up .That way of living is enought to make you go trought in live and be sucessfull ?

bottom line buddy, it is your life and only you know what you want, it is the choices that define us as humans, we make good ones and bad ones but thats what enables us to learn and further evolve, I think you just need some quiet time to sit down and truly think of what you want.

25-04-2018, 10:06 PM

Scutchi Wrote: The child needs help. Mom needs to treated good.

My first post lol

not really helpful, people on the forum like having a chit chat and if you read the post properly, there is no child, have some respect and take your time to read or you will be banned quite quickly