But maybe you could join servers which have a teamspeak, because if you join their TS and talk to them it'll be prolly easier to convince them.
Yeah, but when I just want to play a chill round with music in the background, I don't want to go into TS every time to prove that I'm not hacking. This may be a solution when I'm about to play for a few hours, but that won't come in so handy when I want to play a quick one or when I want to play alone with a friend.
I mean, they could at least talk to me in-game first, couldn't they?
They could but you know, raging kids don't.
Another possibility if you want to keep playing BF3 in long term would be host your own server and try to advertise it so you get players but idk