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15-12-2016, 12:53 AM

Infinitum Wrote: Well thanks! (I'll never forget you ^w^) I'm always happy to talk with people, even though I'm not the most talkative person.

I'm more like something you'd call, a shitposter (in my opinion).

And yes, I know it's possible to get back to a state of happiness, but it's hard, to be sincere.

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I perfectly know that I'm the only one who is actually able to first help me get up and then help myself accepting the fact that people around me actually are here to help me. For the moment, I'm at none of these 2 steps and I'm more in the "acceptance" period, in a way of saying that I'm realizing I destroyed half of my life and destroyed a big part of myself because of my stupid way of thinking.

That's great, you've already done step 1! Now you might just have a lack of motivation, and it may even be subconscious. I got past that by setting microgoals for myself. Just tiny things.

:: Wake up in the morning
- "I have to get out of bed." "Why?" "Because I have to eat." "Why?" "Because I'm hungry."

:: Get out of bed
- "Now I have to eat." "Why do you have to eat?" "Because it will hurt if I don't eat."
> That's when I usually accept that and actually find something to eat.

But just as easy as it was to get out of bed, it's also easy to lose that motivation quickly.

:: Look for something to eat
- "I can't decide on what to eat..." "Maybe I shouldn't eat then..." "I'll just go back to bed and sleep off the hunger."

Yet, it's also easy to catch yourself before you let that happen.

:: What happens when I wake up?
- "What if I still feel hungry when I wake up?" "I should at least eat something." "I don't care what it is, as long as it's edible food."

:: I don't want to wake up..
- "Maybe I'll feel better when I wake up." "Maybe I'll feel better if I actually eat." "Okay, I won't take the risk of sleeping now and I'll save myself the pain."

These microgoals helped me get through a lot, even now. It doesn't matter if you're depressed or not, just make microgoals that aren't too ambitious and you'll find the slow, sluggish days of life go by and you'll start to look forward to the happy, fun days.