You need to be more social. Having been in a plethora of relationships and longest was 11 years, whom of which I had a kid with, I would honestly suggest just being social.
Check out the power and control wheel in psychology. It will teach you a lot about relationships and people in general. This way you can tolerate their stupidity.
Just be yourself. Weight or lack of weight, ugliness or beautiful, size of your johnson. Women don't really care lol You have to find the one that cares about you not anything else.
When you're young, that stuff doesn't really click. It's all about how sexy someone is and your brain releases all these ridiculous chemicals and you're not yet emotionally mature.