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[Self Awareness] Depression? Suicidal Thoughts? Being Bullied? Talk to me!

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27-05-2018, 02:44 PM
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Hello whoever I'm talking to!



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First of all, this is not some joking or trolling Thread, this is meant for people that are actually going through lot of shit in their mind, so if you're about to do some lame ass funny move, I'll report you, so justget the fuck out.

The reasons that made me create this thread, are helping people that are dealing with it, and aware people that don't, so that they can help/understand friends/family/loved ones that do have it.

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I've been through that, and with lot of time and efforth, I washed my demons away.
Why I decided to highlight the Time and Efforth thing? Because that's the most important stuff in this whole situation. You CAN'T get over it in short time, or with little efforth, that's reality. I never said it was easy, but it's POSSIBLE!

Depression is a really big thing, that hits a big percentage of people, and the truth is, most people that don't have it, depreciate it. Why? Because they have no empathy, and they can't understand the minds of the people that actually have it. Depressive people see the world in a different way.


Ok, so let's talk about Depression:



Being super Sensitive is one of the main details of people that are facing depression.

For example, if someone says "You deserve to die!" to someone that that don't have depression, they will most likely just get mad or tell whoever talked to fuck off, and move on. If someone says the same thing to someone facing depression, it will hit them 100x stronger, and he/she will probably think about it for a really long time, probably thinking already they're a mess in life, and they really don't deserve to live.

And then it leads to another detail of a depression person, Overthinking.
It happens to every depressive person, and using the previous example, they would just probably think about it over and over, and try to figure some answer, "What did I do wrong?" "If he/she says it, it's because I probably really deserve to die." "Why can't someone just love me for who I am.?" "He/she is way better, I wish I was him/her.?" "I'm a total mess, I never do the right thing." "Why should I even bother other people with my presence.?" "People around me will get better if I don't exist."


Do you understand the importance of being careful about what you say to some depressive person? Thing like "You're just trying to seek for attention." "Just die." "You're always whining." are common things that someone dealing with it, hear from other people. The truth is, yes, depressive people seek for attention, why? Because the pain they are feeling is so strong, that seeking for attention is a desperate way of seeking for help. If it's the best way of doing it? No. But like i've said, the way depressive people see the world is different, and being Irrationalusually happens. So to deal with a person facing their demons, lot of Empathy and Patience is needed.

What is Empathy?
Empathy is the hability of someone embody the skin of another person, and feel their pain.

This huge overthinking and the sensitive trace comes due to another detail of depression, Low Self-Esteem.
It's really hard to get over such thoughts, think positive and get confident. A mindset work is needed here, and even though getting help from someone helps you a lot, most of the work must be done from you, to you. So you need to thoughen upyour mind, only that way you can get over it. Of course is not that simple, but I'm here to help you, and give you tools to face it.



Tools that can help you:


There are a few tools that can help you beating Depression.

Tool Number 1:

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1. Pick a paper or whatever you can carry everytime, everywhere.
2. Ok, so this is the hard part. I require you to focus HARD! And think about 10 things you're good at (like talents for example: playing instruments, dancing, singing, arts, writing, good at math, sports, playing videogames, etc), that you like in you (such as being good listener, like your hair,being a good student,having a good voice, being a good friend, any inside or outside traits in you, etc), or that you have in your life (things like you can grab on, such as your fluffy doggy, some family member that you love, etc), or all above.
3. If you think you can't list 10 things, think harder!
4. Everytime if feel low, you grab that list, and read it, everyone is the same, you are what you want, it is up to you to decide to feel confident!



Tool Number 2:


1. Pick something you can grab on. For me for example, one thing that helped me was hitting theGym.
2. Start occupying your mind with it.
3. Start getting better at it.
4. Boost your confidence!

If you suffer from anxiety, there is a breathing exercise you can practice.




Tool Number 3:

1. Do long in-breaths and out-breaths.
2. Do each inspire and expire for a 5 seconds long.
3. Each time you're breathing, replace what's on your mind with just the counting (1... 2... 3... 4... 5...)
4. Finish and you feel yourself calming down.




You will have better success if you do all the above!

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I hope this was helpful! Any question, don't hesitate to ask me, I'm here to help everyone, and I won't judge you. If you don't feel comfortable writting here, feel free to PM Me.
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