Have you ffound your love ?

21-05-2020, 01:49 AM

v4hl Wrote: -

DAAAAMN DANIEL,
You should have started with that.Here's my underlying reason.Big,big red flag.
Mate.....she cared for you,that's why she did not want it found out.
She probably got scared of you and that's why she kept her distance.But,since she liked you and loved you,she kept in contact,and she wanted to lay low from the rest.
Your telling,especially intoxicated,was the nail in the coffin.
Ughhh mate you have gone and goofed up.Big time.

First things first,if you care so much about her,make her feel safe and secure.
She started getting distance because you were a Hulk while intoxicated:It's been 3 years,cut those stuff, no matter what.
Secondly,you broke her trust by letting the cat out of the bag,especially when she was secretly keeping tabs with you.
I might be wrong,but she was longing for you to gather momentum and make things right,but you were too afraid to engage ,as you describe it.

The solution is tough to accomplish ,yet laughably simple.
You STILL have a chance.
Step up,and make her feel secure.

How you'll do that,you ask?
Easy,cut the stuff that make you lose control,namely drugs and alcohol.You see the results of their abuse.
Don't say that you are good now etc...show it.Let her see on her own what you are capable of doing/achieving.Be firm and honest,show that you still care and only want what's best.

Get it together,and get back in the game facing the facts you already know.There are no shortcuts here.

21-05-2020, 02:00 AM

Oathkeeper Wrote: -

i will try to fix this, somehow some way! that's the most thing i want rn.

I thought I found my love with a guy that was in the same grade as me last year (junior year).
I had strong feelings for this dude and I really didn't know why, but I liked him anyway. He was a nice and smart dude, and he was kinda good looking. Not model status, but in my eyes he was hot.
Fast forward to January of 2019, I ended up giving him a letter confessing my feelings for him (yes, very cliche and embarrassing I know) and giving it to him. I couldn't even give it to him, someone had to give it to him for me because I was so nervous to give it to him. Like a couple of days later, he texted me saying that we should talk, blah blah blah and that we should meet in front of the auditorium at our school the next morning.
Long story short, he ended up rejecting me. Told me "I wasn't made that way" which is still hilarious to me now LOL. Anyway, I've kind of grown out of it and we're pretty good (?) friends now, just straight chillin. I always think about what would've come out of it if we actually did date, but then I realize that we aren't really meant for each other anyway. He also has some flaws that kind of makes me hate him a little LMFAO

Topic of love... gives me flashbacks of my past. I have not have many success with love. I guess love is for people who are brave enough to chase it. Like the pastor said in TV show 'Fleabag's last episode.

20-05-2020, 08:51 PM

Sativa Wrote: After my fiance passed away 6 years ago right next to me in her sleep i thought i would never find anyone nor love again.. months later, I found that special someone and now we have a baby boy that's 1 year old.

:( Thats really bad dude im sorry to hear that. I dont have anything to say about it :(

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20-05-2020, 09:20 PM

Oathkeeper Wrote: Ok, I hate to be the pessimistic one,but do hear me out.
It's fucking great that your old love might come back.Especially considering you made the fuck up and she is now cool with ya.

But,please allow me to say that clinging on to her might have been a grave mistake.
Like Sativa found that special someone after that terrible event,you could have found a loved one as well.The only difference,as I have interpreted it, is that Sativa was more open to new interactions,while you remained a bit more static,passive and clinged to the past.Such things make a character harder to reach and emotionally unavailable.

People are blinded by love sometimes and that's ok.But completely sealing your fate and refusing to even give the outside world a try is faulty as well.I don't say to forget about her,I haven't forger about my ex either and I will keep reminescing the time we had together(I broke up with her because she couldn't see that it was never going to happen-love blindness)

What's done is done and what I mostly want to say is : while you should try to make things work with her one more time,you shouldn't cling entirely and solely on that.Accept the fact that it's ok to move on if you think it's for the best.

And come-freaking-oooon.There areabout 7.6 billion people in the world.If at first you don't succeed, give it another shot.Such things are trial and error.

Love is jsut like a abyss. When you fell into it you cant go back. I fell in love with my childhood friend and i dont know how to tell her.

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20-05-2020, 09:20 PM

Oathkeeper Wrote: Ok, I hate to be the pessimistic one,but do hear me out.
It's fucking great that your old love might come back.Especially considering you made the fuck up and she is now cool with ya.

But,please allow me to say that clinging on to her might have been a grave mistake.
Like Sativa found that special someone after that terrible event,you could have found a loved one as well.The only difference,as I have interpreted it, is that Sativa was more open to new interactions,while you remained a bit more static,passive and clinged to the past.Such things make a character harder to reach and emotionally unavailable.

People are blinded by love sometimes and that's ok.But completely sealing your fate and refusing to even give the outside world a try is faulty as well.I don't say to forget about her,I haven't forger about my ex either and I will keep reminescing the time we had together(I broke up with her because she couldn't see that it was never going to happen-love blindness)

What's done is done and what I mostly want to say is : while you should try to make things work with her one more time,you shouldn't cling entirely and solely on that.Accept the fact that it's ok to move on if you think it's for the best.

And come-freaking-oooon.There areabout 7.6 billion people in the world.If at first you don't succeed, give it another shot.Such things are trial and error.

Love is jsut like a abyss. When you fell into it you cant go back. I fell in love with my childhood friend and i dont know how to tell her.

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Love is jsut like a abyss. When you fell into it you cant go back. I fell in love with my childhood friend and i dont know how to tell her.
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I'm willing to help ya mate,but you have to tell me your age (so that I can approximate the circumstances).

But a general piece of advice is:Are you really in love or are you simply pushing because you are close and you feel desperate.
Sometimes,being treated nice could cloud your judgement.

Know that things can't go back if you proceed.

21-05-2020, 06:19 PM

Oathkeeper Wrote: I'm willing to help ya mate,but you have to tell me your age (so that I can approximate the circumstances).

But a general piece of advice is:Are you really in love or are you simply pushing because you are close and you feel desperate.
Sometimes,being treated nice could cloud your judgement.

Know that things can't go back if you proceed.

Thank you man i know things weill go bad after it thats why im scared. I dont want to lose her. She can leave me when i say that i love her :(

In this quarantine, i saw my hand with such a love than any other person :lol:

I have found lots of love(fake one). Actually there is no true love this is all about money & sex.I am saying this from my past experience.

I have a lot of exes, but being single is sometimes better than being obligated.