Have you ffound your love ?

Hey there
Most of the people are worried about finding their love. But unfortunately they cant find it. Have you find your love ?

i did found it, along time ago, she was everything to me, and then at some point ... i fucked up and she left. 3 years and i couldn't replace her, or find someone else, but the good thing is that i have a feeling that she might comeback to me. idk i hope so

20-05-2020, 06:06 PM

v4hl Wrote: i did found it, along time ago, she was everything to me, and then at some point ... i fucked up and she left. 3 years and i couldn't replace her, or find someone else, but the good thing is that i have a feeling that she might comeback to me. idk i hope so

Im sorry for you my dude. I hope the things can go well :(

20-05-2020, 06:41 PM

Wolflix Wrote: Im sorry for you my dude. I hope the things can go well :(

^^' it's all fine mate, that's just humans nature. x_x

After my fiance passed away 6 years ago right next to me in her sleep i thought i would never find anyone nor love again.. months later, I found that special someone and now we have a baby boy that's 1 year old.

20-05-2020, 06:06 PM

v4hl Wrote: i did found it, along time ago, she was everything to me, and then at some point ... i fucked up and she left. 3 years and i couldn't replace her, or find someone else, but the good thing is that i have a feeling that she might comeback to me. idk i hope so

Ok, I hate to be the pessimistic one,but do hear me out.
It's fucking great that your old love might come back.Especially considering you made the fuck up and she is now cool with ya.

But,please allow me to say that clinging on to her might have been a grave mistake.
Like Sativa found that special someone after that terrible event,you could have found a loved one as well.The only difference,as I have interpreted it, is that Sativa was more open to new interactions,while you remained a bit more static,passive and clinged to the past.Such things make a character harder to reach and emotionally unavailable.

People are blinded by love sometimes and that's ok.But completely sealing your fate and refusing to even give the outside world a try is faulty as well.I don't say to forget about her,I haven't forger about my ex either and I will keep reminescing the time we had together(I broke up with her because she couldn't see that it was never going to happen-love blindness)

What's done is done and what I mostly want to say is : while you should try to make things work with her one more time,you shouldn't cling entirely and solely on that.Accept the fact that it's ok to move on if you think it's for the best.

And come-freaking-oooon.There areabout 7.6 billion people in the world.If at first you don't succeed, give it another shot.Such things are trial and error.

20-05-2020, 09:20 PM

Oathkeeper Wrote: -

They say (it takes you 5 years to fix one single problem)
we felt in love when we were kids, we spent 6 years to gether, and guess what? i lied to her when the whole thing started.
i said 'you are my first love' and she wasn't my 1st, when i was a kid i loved another girl and we couldn't be together and i did move on and then i found my ex. after 6 years that girl i liked became her room mate at college, and shit started to get complicated, somehow someway my ex became bestfriend to that bitch and that bitch mentioned that old story, that there was something happening between us, i lied to her when i said that she is my 1st love, and after shit happened i told her the truth, she didn't like that. she couldn't accept that i lied to her for 6 whole years.
she left me.
2 days she started calling me, i ignored her calls, messages. i just didn't like it either, the way she act to me, the way she broke up with me.
2 months later, she called me at 4:00am, we did talk, then we start fighting again. yes, she left again.
4months later, she texted me, called, added me on skype, then we fought again..
she kept close to me after all that, no talk, but she was secretly stalking me.. i knew that but everytime when i try to talk to her or text her she just doesn't reply.. i get drunk and start sending her messages, telling her how much i love her, and when i wake up.. i feel so dumb you know, then i start recieving some fake facebook invites, it was her.
but she never talk. i can't tell what's wrong with her or why shes doing that but i must admit that shes the smartest person ive ever meet, cute, well educated, and she was with me in hard times like none eles, she was the only person i can talk with. she was my best friend, my only friend and my dream girl, i meet so many other girls but i couldn't ... even talk with them.. i just can't allow new comers to enter my life just like that, and you know that feeling, they will gone after a really short time. my ex was the greatest thing that happened in my life. and i will always love/miss her.
i just can't move on. believe me i tried

21-05-2020, 12:37 AM

v4hl Wrote: -

Alrighty then,let's start saying where there is right and where is wrong.
She over reacted when you said that "I lied to you 6 years ago".It's too much to not let it be water under the bridge and actually break up because of that.I smell underlying reasons.
Big mistake on your part to ignore the calls.
The fighting again and again is both of your faults,could have been avoided.
The stalking is a good sign for you,means she gives a fuck,but in my book,that's a red flag,especially the other fake profiles.Could even means she is ill-intented.

Now, I would normally continue with the logical approach,but I know that when a person has been there for you,for hard times for a long time, it's hard to let go and none has the right to force your hand.
Especially since you admire her.I am happy that in your eyes,you found such a person.Perhaps some people might disagree,but that is irrelevant.

Time heals all wounds.Eventually,if must be done for you to recover,you WILL get over her,unless of course eveything works out.She might stay as a friend,might not, who knows.What should be your first priority, is and will always be your psychological health.

Trust me,it's hard to find people this good again,but you will.Heck,you might even have met them and not have realised it yet.
What's the worst part for you,is that she is everything to you,but it's obvious it doesn't go vice versa.

You will do what you feel/believe eventually,but please keep in mind,if not nothing of the above,this: In the end,what remains is you and your dignity.Let these be your priorities above all else and don't allow them to be trampled.


I hope you luck,and may the odds ever be in your favour.

Yeah ive been married to getting the bag for about 3 years now.

But really no i have not found my love there was this one girl one time but it didn't work out.

Im really not looking atm just don't feel the need for a relationship like that yet.

21-05-2020, 01:05 AM

Oathkeeper Wrote: -

well i didn't mention that when i was with her i was addicted to pills and weed, and when someone fuck with me i start doing troubles, in our last few days i start fighting with her, i was high/ drunk/pills.. i do lose control and when i get high i'm another person, totally, she didn't know about that, it was my own secret, she didn't know that i was high most of the time. after she left, she knew.
also, when she called me at 4am she said :vahl, please don't tell anyone, i don't want people to know bout that.
well i got drunk a week later, and i did told her best friend about that story.
she got mad.. again.. i didn't talk to her or text her again.. and as i said, she sent me a friend request with a fake profile.. she start coming to our hood, i even notice her.. watching me playing football and she was standing away from the field.. every week, she come watching me.. and once the football match is over, she sneak on me from the car window and leave.
last month she didn't leave.. she kept looking at me, i saw her! i couldn't even move.. we kept looking at each other for like 10min and then i turned back and walked away. later on.. i start seeing her near to me, i couldn't talk or do anything..
i ran away everytime i see her, idk what to do. maybe i have a chance maybe not.
and now with the Corona thing, i guess she can't drive or something like that.. so i didn't see her fr a while.