Unhealthy Relationship?

by Silence - 16-02-2016, 02:38 AM
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Posted: 16-02-2016, 02:38 AM (This post was last modified: 16-02-2016, 02:41 AM by Silence.)
Please keep in mind that I'm writing this after suffering from a panic attack, taking panic reducing pills and a shift in personalities (MPD).

So, I've been dating this girl for the past month almost two. We kind of hit it off suddenly and quickly started dating, felt like we'd known each other for quite a while. I quickly fell for her, ended up getting her a little ring (not a real diamond one, just a crystal thing) and collar just so people would know she's mine. As well as I being hers, I don't plan on that changing - ever.

Tonight, she cut the artery at the base of her wrist. Luckily, her grandmother is a Doctor and treated her (thank god for liquid stitches here grandmother says) and that she didn't cut too deep. So, that was pretty panic inducing and was in a panicked state for roughly - 1 to 2 hours.


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So, she's gone through - quite a bit in her life. As well as still going through some of it, which sucks immensely since I'm not able to do anything about it. She tries to stay tough and tries to keep up a facade so she won't hurt people, which in the end causes more pain than usual. She's really insecure about a lot: her appearance, she think she's fat, she thinks she's mean (she is one of the sweetest people I know), etc. Just a lot of stuff about her past causing her pain in the present. She went through foster care, her mother killing a friend, abusive families, men taking what they want from her and a whole fuck ton more.

Then there's me. I try not to really talk about my feelings, but I end up opening up to her. I am really quick to anger as well as don't like arguing, so I end up getting angered over me getting angered. I also watched my mom attempt to OD when I was about 7 (yeah, I remember it pretty well after going through some counseling and getting the repressed memory back) which I kind of flash backed to when my girlfriend attempts to Overdose one night. I grew up with arguing parents, abusive dad, the normal 9 yards for an edgy teen.


Question: Is this relationship unhealthy and should I end it.
Now, just cause it's unhealthy doesn't mean that I am going to end it, I just want to see people's opinions. I care for her more than I've cared for nearly everyone I've met. This was more-so me just needing to vent.

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Posted: 16-02-2016, 02:44 AM (This post was last modified: 16-02-2016, 02:45 AM by IceKing.)
After reading this I can honestly say you guys are perfect for each other I am sorry that you and your girlfriend both went through dramatic events in your life. Here is the thing who cares if the relationship is unhealthy nothing is ever perfect i am sure you are aware of. I can tell you from past experience that you should not ever let this girl go. She needs you and you need her. From reading your story it seems that you are one of the very very few people that is still there for her and by the looks of it she makes you pretty damn happy. I'm no counselor but if it were me i would be doing anything and everything to stay with this girl she sounds super sweet don't give up the fight keep fighting it. keep me updated on how things work out.
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Posted: 16-02-2016, 02:48 AM
(16-02-2016, 02:44 AM)IceKing Wrote: After reading this I can honestly say you guys are perfect for each other I am sorry that you and your girlfriend both went through dramatic events in your life. Here is the thing who cares if the relationship is unhealthy nothing is ever perfect i am sure you are aware of. I can tell you from past experience that you should not ever let this girl go. She needs you and you need her. From reading your story it seems that you are one of the very very few people that is still there for her and by the looks of it she makes you pretty damn happy. I'm no counselor but if it were me i would be doing anything and everything to stay with this girl she sounds super sweet don't give up the fight keep fighting it. keep me updated on how things work out.

Will do, thanks for the reply man. Means a lot, and yeah - she makes me extremely happy. I don't know where I'd be without her, as I was having to fake my happiness quite a bit.
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Posted: 16-02-2016, 02:50 AM
(16-02-2016, 02:48 AM)Death Incarnate Wrote:
(16-02-2016, 02:44 AM)IceKing Wrote: After reading this I can honestly say you guys are perfect for each other I am sorry that you and your girlfriend both went through dramatic events in your life. Here is the thing who cares if the relationship is unhealthy nothing is ever perfect i am sure you are aware of. I can tell you from past experience that you should not ever let this girl go. She needs you and you need her.  From reading your story it seems that you are one of the very very few people that is still there for her and by the looks of it she makes you pretty damn happy. I'm no counselor but if it were me i would be doing anything and everything to stay with this girl she sounds super sweet don't give up the fight keep fighting it. keep me updated on how things work out.

Will do, thanks for the reply man. Means a lot, and yeah - she makes me extremely happy. I don't know where I'd be without her, as I was having to fake my happiness quite a bit.

Just know a relationship is going to have it's up and downs and if there are still up times I wouldn't end it because of the down times.
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Posted: 16-02-2016, 02:55 AM
It's the fact that you care about her more than anything.
It definitely seems that your girlfriend is still going through heavy amounts of trouble, and she'll need you more than ever, and as you've gone through troubles yourself, you'll need her.

You're very open to her because you've both been through dark times, but both of you together can hold on and keep going through with life.

So no, this isn't a unhealthy relationship.
No matter how bad it may seem at some point if she continues with habits, you two are very much perfect for each other.
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Posted: 16-02-2016, 03:04 AM
If you have to ask that question you're already in a bad situation.
Though what do I know about feelings.
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Posted: 16-02-2016, 03:13 AM
(16-02-2016, 03:04 AM)Faded Wrote: -snip-

Yeah, I know. But again, this is more-so just to vent so I don't break my promise to her.


(16-02-2016, 02:55 AM)Maldini Wrote: -snip-

Thank you for the reply.
And yeah, you're right. We do both need each other.
I think just what really messed me up about tonight was what she said when she did it.
"I never want to lose you, and now I won't."
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Posted: 16-02-2016, 03:20 AM
In a good but sad way. You are perfect for each other... And to be honest. I don't see anything wrong with your relationship.

offtopic: Did you find that thread?
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Posted: 16-02-2016, 03:21 AM
(16-02-2016, 03:20 AM)NSA Wrote: In a good but sad way. You are perfect for each other... And to be honest. I don't see anything wrong with your relationship.

offtopic: Did you find that thread?

Not yet. Kind of occupied right now. :yus:
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Posted: 16-02-2016, 03:27 AM
(16-02-2016, 03:21 AM)Death Incarnate Wrote:
(16-02-2016, 03:20 AM)NSA Wrote: In a good but sad way. You are perfect for each other... And to be honest. I don't see anything wrong with your relationship.

offtopic: Did you find that thread?

Not yet. Kind of occupied right now. :yus:

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